DEAR JUMAI,
LET me hit the nail on the head. I noticed that my husband likes his stuff well-kept so I try as much as possible not to touch anything that belongs to him. But on this faithful day, I went out with my car and suddenly the battery refused to pick where I parked. I tried everything possible but I could not get it working. I asked for his car so that I could go shopping.
Getting to the market, I discovered that the battery-head of hubby’s car had melted and so I turned off the engines immediately and allowed it to cool. I barely managed to drive the car home so I could show him what happened.
Upon my arrival and explanation, my husband walked away from me. The last words that came out of his mouth, was that I should go and buy a new battery and replace it, stressing that I will not find his reaction funny.
I knew he was not joking, so I went to the market the next day and got him a new battery. He did not even feel bothered in asking me to replace his battery, rather, he warned me never to touch his things again.
How do you handle a man like this? I am angry and would love to pay him back. Monica
Dear Monica,
I expect that, by now, you should have known how your husband behaves and so things like this should not bother you. I know it can be irritating at times, but all I need you to do is to forgive and accept him for who he is. You guys must have courted before marriage and you fell in love with him, knowing well enough, that he has his shortcoming before marrying him. What you need now is wisdom to be able to accommodate his shortcomings.
Do not allow his attitude turn you off; always learn to overlook things he does to you. Thank God you were able to replace the battery. But next time, do not even ask him for any of his things. If your car is not available for your use, then look for another means and get your task done.
